Sex and a Woman's Spiritual Orgasm

The following is an excerpt from The Hip Chick's Guide to Macrobiotics by Jessica Porter. This book is not only a cookbook, but a spiritual guide, as she offers more than tips for cooking. I highly recommend it whether you are interested in learning more about macrobiotics or simply want a new spiritual book to read.

The difference between this book and other macrobiotics books I have read, is that the other's tend to view macrobiotics as a dictatorship; whereas her slant is definitely a democracy; allowing freedom of choice...if you need to eat that candy bar, then go ahead, just know what you are getting into. She also writes in such a fun way, I immediately liked her. It's sort of Sex and the City meets the Dali Lama. Check out her website at http://www.hipchickmacrobiotics.com/.

As a woman, the following excerpt moved me greatly and as you will see it obviously doesn't have much to do about food...

Healthy Yin Energy-A Woman’s Advantage

Poor guys. Let them be the ones to focus exclusively on “coming”. We’ve already arrived! Their spirals demand a buildup of energy that “comes” to a point of no return in order to be satisfied. And because we receive heaven’s force too, we also enjoy that pleasurable capability, but our dominant, expansive spiral allows us to release energetically all over the place, our female, earthy love allows us to connect us not just sexually but spiritually with our partners.

Healthy yin is the force issuing up and out into the universe. Currently believed to be on expand mode, the universe courses up and through a woman, pulling both partners toward their primary connection with the larger whole. No wonder we got burned as witches. Until the universe starts to contract again (which won’t be for a long while), women are the stronger lightning rods of the invisible world. Men ground us, protect us, and dominate the material concerns of the planet, but we bring the universe to the table. When a woman gets in touch with this huge energy coursing through her, an orgasm looks nice, but sort of provincial. You are a healer in the bedroom: a witch, a saint, a goddess. Relax, receive, and let love course through you.

Healthy yin energy is also the stuff of relationships. Without it, we would all be playing vigorous soccer for eternity. And the more a woman honors her yin strength, an invisible force that acts like an intoxicating magnetic perfume, the more she can attract and sustain beautiful relationships. Our culture teaches us to force, and control and guarantee our fates, as well as our mates-but that is a male (yang) model based on contraction, exactly the opposite of the energy that governs us. Forgiveness, softness, and an intuitive connection to the Infinite Universe are the secret weapons, as it were, in our relationships. By relaxing and letting good-quality yin energy pour through, we automatically attract the yang force of men because they need it to balance themselves out, just as we need them.

Because our spiral is about expansion, we respond differently to matters sexual: women usually need some sort of emotional wooing before opening up sexually. We need to feel supported and loved, secure in the relationship. Love, support, and security make up the petri dish for more expansion-the opening of our sexual “flower”. Even if women can become aroused without these elements, enjoying the thrill of a one-night stand now and again, it is difficult for us to sustain a sexual relationship on a casual basis because the very act of intercourse (an expansive act for us) opens our emotionally and bonds us to our partner in a very deep way. This is the basis for our “Fatal Attraction” cliché of the obsessive female stalker, bonded to a man way beyond his comprehension from a single act of intercourse. To him, he has simply acted casually, like a bee landing on a flower, and can move on easily. But she has literally been entered-physically, emotionally, and energetically. Governed by the receptive yin spiral of earth’s force, she has “received” him and it is difficult to let him go. On a physiological level, arousal causes her to dose herself with oxytocin, which is a strong bonding hormone. On a mental level, because her energy field has been entered by him, her clear judgment literally becomes obscured by his energy. It is quite easy for women to “lose” themselves to a sexual relationship. One good reason not to sleep with someone too fast.

And this is the way nature intends it. It shouldn’t be that easy for a woman to “get over” people she has received and loved. Imagine if it were energetically easy for women to “let go of” or “get over” their children-we wouldn’t have a human race! Babies just plopped down on highways when Mom gets bored or forgetful is not in nature’s overall plan. It’s yin force that receives and bonds, and it’s yang force that creates boundaries. Both are vital to the happy functioning of both genders. But next time you feel like a total idiot because you still think about him six months after the breakup and he’s moved on to the next “flower”, remember that you are governed by the energy that unites and bonds human beings with love and that’s nothing to be ashamed of. He has the uniting energy, too, but it’s just easier for him to take action sooner, because he is governed by yang. That’s why you have girlfriends to cry to; they, governed by yin, can “receive” you as you grieve the loss and remind you that there are other fish in the sea.

Men have yin and yang sides of their sexuality, too. Because they are governed by yang, an orgasm is usually a necessary component in sexual satisfaction. And the mail buildup of energy toward an explosive orgasm brings a nice hot dynamic to the bedroom. Male sexual hormones bring protectiveness, playful aggression, and conquest to the table. Yang energy allows men to cut off from intimacy more easily than women do, and this ability to shut down allows them to experience sex more casually, if desired. This quality is probably as biologically mandated as our instant bonding, so that his forebears could kill something (without breaking down in tears) in order to feed or protect the family. Because men are governed by yang force, their feelings (more yin) can get pushed down deep inside, having a hard time seeing the light of day. This also makes men (generally) the better breaker-uppers.

But because we are both both, men also want to be cuddled and adored, exchanging love as much as fluids with their partners. They also secret the hormone oxytocin. That is natural to them as our enjoying an orgasm.

Luckily, everyone has the capability to experience sex as a mind-blowing, bonding, vibrational meeting of yin and yang and feel that incredible love that comes through us as yin and yang reach out to each other and have a hell of a good time in our bodies.

Wow! While I have not yet had this kind of sexual experience with a partner, I am surely looking forward to it!

I can say that over much of my adulthood and adolescence for that matter, I was a party girl. Oh, let's just face it, I was THE party girl. Some of my friends nicknamed me Samantha taken from the character on Sex and the City. I always thought that sleeping with men, or at the very least having a good old fashioned make-out session with lots of men was just part of my signature. Suffice it to say that as soon as I stopped drinking, I realized that I too have feelings and a deep sense of connection to the Universe and that means with sexuality, as well. This connection was simply buried under the layers of alcohol and lack of self-esteem I once had.

I have begun to become intimate with myself for the first time on every level imaginable, knowing who I am and what direction I want to take. As my life has unfolded and becomes more in focus I have become more intuned with the real person that lived deep inside of me. Connecting with the Universe through meditation, and while pleasuring myself for that matter, bringing me the greatest fullfillment of my life. I am completely "blissed-out"! I can only imagine how a man's yang essence will surely bring my yin essence to it's fullest fruition.

I look forward to continuing my path of expansion in all areas of my life, including the Woman's Spiritual Orgasm.

Thanks for reading and Namaste! (The Light in me recognizes the Light in you!)